Gossip, secrets, and lies. It sounds like something out of the bowels of Hollywood. Nope, this is about what can happen to any one of our families. As children, you viewed your siblings as close allies, always having your back. But, as years pass, attitudes change and so with that, loyalties.
Perhaps, one is the exception to the rule by maintaining a close loving relationship within their family. Yet, that is not always the case for everyone. Consider if you will a time when parent(s) enter nursing homes, experience long illnesses, or lose cognitive ability. Are siblings still close or do they become competitive, like wolves encircling the weak or feeble?
Wills, estates, rewards from the hard work and smart investment of once hardworking parents and other relatives can turn well-mannered, polite people into hyennas, coyotes, or vultures. They wait for the sick to fall and then dive into their savings, insurance, and personal property. This may sound cruel to you, the reader, yet we have all heard of examples. I recall a relative learning of his mother’s passing. By the time he made the two hour drive to her residence, another sibling and their children had already cleaned out family treasures, keeping them for themselves.
When Dallas, the well-known prime time soap was on in the 1980’s they killed off Jock Ewing, played by beloved actor Jim Davis, who had passed away. The shows characters, J.R. and his brother Bobby Ewing turned into predators in a contest to see who could best run their father’s legacy, Ewing Oil. The lengths they went to win were legendary.
Maybe heirs are colder and more calculating when old and feeble relatives are still alive. The pack of wolves must at least outwardly make an attempt to hide the greed that has captured their hearts and souls. Steps must be taken to horde any available belongings of their parent or other older relative. When they visit them, there red predatory eyes scan the bureaus, cabinets, and drawers for items of monetary or sentimental value. Some may just try to drop a hint to their relative how much they admire an object. If it is not given to them they may attempt to gain a promise or note that they can later use to claim their booty. Even worse, they may share fictional or embarrassing, gossip, secrets, or lies about other relatives in order to gain an advantage in their quest for future rewards.
We expect a potential battle against some people in our world. We expect occasion poor treatment from strangers, but when it is family… Gossip, secrets, and lies. Perhaps, it is better to let roaches feast on their treats while concentrating on the more important things in life: honor, integrity, and respect!
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